That sounds like a difficult-and-guarantee-you'll-fail job for anyone to handle.Please continue to do fun things on your own or with your friends. I recently tried belly dancing and signed up for archery -- all while still working and hanging out with people in between. Maybe you're happy with your pattern — you're a blissful serial monogamist or a sometime-dater — but for the rest of you who've had it UP TO HERE ... When it comes to love, your gut (and by gut, we mean vagina) can sometimes lead you astray. Try out the shy guy whose sense of humor you have to draw out. Date the less-than-dapper dude who might not be the best arm candy.Quite frankly, that applies to being in the relationship iself, too. Maybe it means you have to deal with his neat-freak tendencies, or perhaps you earn more than he does. People certainly love talking about this subject with me, and (I assume) all other single people.Dropping everything in your life to make it all about finding your soulmate (barf) is a ridiculous concept and makes you undateable, super boring, and somewhat creepy.

Let's start off strong here, folks: if you don't pick up any tips in the dating game in your 20s, suffice it say that your 30s ain't looking so good, either. Or when you land the perfect apartment that you can finally afford with west-facing light and enough closet space to fit all of your shoes, the man of your dreams will just wander into your orbit. And yes, when it comes to salaries, martinis and aisle seats, it makes sense to ask for exactly what you want. If you're someone who happens to be on the hunt for Mr. "He has to be good at hiking, dislike dogs, love cats, and be over six feet," she told me recently. Or, what about another friend who is so confident that someone will simply fall into her lap, so to speak, she pooh-poohs online dating, telling people she's looking, or putting herself in situations where she might increase her chances of meeting men. As a life-long busy body and self-appointed "fixer," I contacted a dating coach to find out how I could help women get back into the dating game successfully, and without the angst. She was referring to the many women who seek her help in getting back to dating after decades of being in long term relationships. She still thinks she needs to find someone who's "ideal" based on her notions of what "ideal" was when she was dating 30 years ago.Even my work colleagues and team talk to me about it constantly. EVERYBODY says his or her city is the worst place to date (except maybe if you're a man in New York City). This includes desperately going out to bars/clubs/networking events solely for the purpose of meeting your next boyfriend. The subject is broached differently according to the source: Some conversations are fun, light enough, and haha funny. Sure, I know some of the answers already; and at some point like to believe that I'll meet someone, fall in love, and go through the saga with this special someone of how to stay together.