Last night I found this forum, and I spent quite a while reading through the posts. I am realizing just how selfish and preoccupied he is right now. I just think people going through a divorce (and he just lost his mother in June) as well as some health issues..he kind of has to be selfish now.

It was so helpful, because up until recently, I was seeing a separated man. I have to get myself straight." This after spending a wonderful summer together. I didn't realize - until I read so many of your posts - that this behavior of suddenly pulling back (despite a wonderful time together whenever we got together) is kind of par for the course with these separated/divorcing types.

In my response, I provide guidance on how to approach this question, whether there’s hope for her relationship, and whether it’s appropriate to reconnect and give it another try.

Hi, I was hoping if someone could tell me a good place to go and talk with others who are going through the same thing I am, which is dating a man going through a divorce.??

So this man is the greatest man I have been with I love him with all my heart and I have told him.

I said "Oh no, no more separated guys." Unfortunately, he walked past me one snowy evening, and it was like WHAM! " I was hooked by his genuine smile and sweet face. As the summer progressed, I DID see him struggling with the relationship.I don't understand how he can still care for her after she cheated on him but whatever.They have discussed divorce papers, she was trying to figure that all out, but I guess it is up to him to get it done,(I don't know if she just can't figure it out, I don't know).Today’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!) about whether she should reconnect with an ex-boyfriend when he’s more ready for a relationship, and whether there’s hope for a new relationship.