She is not his wife, she is not mother to his children, she is not his parents' daughter-in-law.Her chance for happiness hinges on a future that is highly uncertain, to say the least.But when the man with whom you're involved is part of another couple, someone else's husband, then the challenge and unpredictability can make your life a messy, unhappy waiting game that you will rarely win.The woman who is in love with a married man lives a life that, for the most part, is shrouded in secrecy.Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with.The love of your life just might be a married man." Being part of any couple can be challenging and unpredictable, as we all know.

People offered me all sorts of advice to talk me out of rebounding, but nobody was able to change my determined mind.

I looked forward to the freedom associated with single life.

I imagined that a combination of friends, casual dating, and personal growth would fill the lonely void created by my spouse’s absence, but they didn’t.

And it always starts with the same feelings of confusion, hesitation and attraction.

And women, by nature are completely helpless in such circumstances.