The following dos and don’ts should give you a better idea how to manage your position in your May-December relationship to your best advantage. One of the main reasons that she’s with you, and not with some stud of her own age, is that younger guys often don’t hit the emotional mark.They may have the bodies of demigods, but they can also have the emotional maturity of a walnut. Show her how even-headed you are and how readily able you are to talk about your feelings in a calm and responsive manner.

Consequently, trying to work out what preconception attracted her to you and acting upon your mistaken logic can actually have a negative effect.

But I’ve noticed a new strategy among my set of female friends—lovely, intelligent, independent women—to combat the grime of the online dating world: date up. More and more women I know are dating men twice, yes , Anne Hathaway stands with Robert De Niro and a bunch of young male colleagues in a bar and draws a harsh comparison: “How in one generation have men gone from guys like Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford to . I see what Hathaway means: Why put up with Tinder when there’s a whole generation of men out there who wouldn’t dream of using it?

There have never been more advantages to relationships with older men, precisely because Tinder and its ilk have made dating feel impossible to those of us who don’t want to participate in the battle of who-cares-less.

Reach back two decades and you are more likely to find a man who can’t fathom swiping through a series of pictures to find a mate for the night.

My friend Gabrielle met her boyfriend at a restaurant opening. just clearly don’t care.” The stereotypes, she says, are true: Older men are attentive, they aren’t threatened by your career success, they didn’t grow up watching porn on their laptops, and they certainly don’t expect sex from you before you’ve even had a chance to meet.