My “vacation” all started with a rude comment left on the Art of Flirting blog (which has since been removed).Any blogger will tell you that haters are part of the package; if you’re going to put your thoughts, feelings, ideas, advice, and musings out for public display, expect that a small percentage of people out there will take a huge, fat, inconsiderate dump on them.Dating after a divorce can be exciting as you put yourself out there and meet new people.

I know that I tend to take an upbeat approach, and that is because I really do believe that flirting, dating, and relationships are supposed to be a fun, positive experience. The people that shame you and your ideas and make you feel bad for even trying. Sometimes maintaining a positive attitude in the face of those people–or even in facing –is really difficult. There is a comfort and safety in having it all be online (which is why online hating is so rampant in the first place).Here is our step by step guide to getting yourself back out there: “You can’t love someone before you love yourself.” This old saying is true, and it especially applies to dating after a divorce.Before you can put yourself back out there and meet someone special, you need to learn to be comfortable and happy with yourself.First things first: if you want to learn the best ways to start dating again, you’ve got to begin with the most important which is to put yourself out there.Get out of your house because Prince Charming isn’t going to ride up on your stoop someday deary! Church events, work events or community events could be a way you meet someone.