So why is it that so many guys and girls (yes girls too) fail miserably in avoiding the move from the Inbox to the trash can?

Extensive research into online dating statistics show that there are some set rules that we all need to follow.

The words (if you can call them that) are the top nine worst words to use in an opening message.

Mails that contain these words will get practically no replies proving that intelligence (or maybe just good grammar) is an attractive trait in both sexes.

Even if you’re on excellent form, the same doesn’t necessarily apply to the person on the other end of the phone.

He or she might have just had an unexpected (and unwelcome) visit, or burnt the dinner.

Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.

Unlike an everyday face to face meeting where the words just tumble from your mouth in no apparent order.

You need to know how to dish out rejection in an appropriate way.

As with real life, you must do it quickly — and with a modicum of kindness, if possible.

Before we get into the questions, here are 5 tips to keep in mind about your questions: What I mean when I say never ask those Sexual questions: Ok this is really touchy.

Guys love to try to turn a conversation toward a sexual topic or make sexual innuendo.